The high-risk HPV virus is a narcissist. I’m referring to high-risk human papillomavirus – and there are 3 specific narcissistic behaviors it displays. Why is this important? Well, 99% of cervical cancer for women is associated with high-risk HPV – which is also associated with other types of cancer for both women and men. In fact, it’s one of the fastest-increasing types of cancer that exist today. Cervical cancer alone is considered the third most common cancer in women.

As a naturopathic doctor and midwife specializing in women’s health for over 25 years, this is something I’ve been helping women with for over two decades. I see very clearly what women are going through, and often they are suffering in silence as they deal with high-risk HPV and cancer risk. 

I am highly passionate and motivated to open up what’s hidden and silent around high-risk HPV and bring more awareness to it because I believe we can reduce cervical cancer as well as other HPV-related cancers by understanding the HPV virus.

Understanding the Behavior of a Narcissist

The personality of this virus is that of a narcissist. Maybe some of you listening are familiar with the personality disorder called narcissistic personality disorder and/or narcissistic behavior traits. These have become more and more identified, defined, and familiar in recent years, which is a good thing.

If you’re wondering if you’re dealing with a narcissist in your life, I definitely encourage you to learn more about narcissistic abuse and narcissistic traits so that you can start shifting what’s happening in your life. I myself was exposed to narcissistic abuse for many years and have now been in the recovery process. I believe that it’s because I experienced narcissistic abuse that I can so clearly see that the HPV virus acts like a narcissist.

I want to point out from the beginning that it is established in research that women who are exposed to narcissistic abuse—including childhood abuse, sexual abuse, physical abuse, and emotional abuse in childhood or adulthood—have been shown to have a higher risk of testing positive for high-risk HPV and a higher risk of cervical cancer and other types of cancer. There already is an association between narcissistic abuse and HPV and cervical cancer.

This is something we need to be aware of. If you are a practitioner listening and you are helping a patient who has known exposure to narcissistic abuse, it’s important to be helping them test for HPV and to help them recover from narcissistic abuse in order to prevent HPV and cervical cancer.

If you are a patient who has tested positive for HPV, you might realize that you’ve also been in what you thought to be a stressful relationship – maybe a toxic relationship, a relationship with someone who’s criticizing you often or constantly making you feel less than, constantly making you feel that you need to be afraid of what you say and do, and that the only option is for things to go the way this other person thinks they should go. You start to be in a constant state of fear, anxiety, and depression and lose your sense of self.

This is when oftentimes you might seek help, although one of the key situations with a narcissistic relationship is that the person being abused feels very isolated and alone and is hesitant to ask for help. Maybe you’ve asked for help before, and people have just said, “Leave that relationship,” which, when someone’s in a narcissistic relationship, becomes very difficult to do. You become more and more isolated, and that’s actually part of what happens in narcissistic abuse—isolation.

How HPV Virus Acts Like a Narcissist

There are three ways (and likely more) that high risk HPV virus behaves like a narcissist. Understanding these patterns helped me to understand HPV and how to protect ourselves from it. 

Consider this with me for a minute. See if you can have an open mind and think about how HPV virus is working in our bodies.

1. Creating Fear and Anxiety

When I help women who are testing positive for high-risk HPV, they tell me about the anxiety and fear they are experiencing. We know from research there is a has a huge psycho-social impact from testing positive for HPV. Women go into very high rates of anxiety, depression, and fear. 

Narcissism also puts us into a state of anxiety, fear, and depression.

Women talk about how, when they test positive for high-risk HPV, the anxiety and worry about the virus is literally taking over their life. They’re not sleeping, they’re worrying all day, and they’re even crying all day, every day. The same thing happens when women are in a relationship with a narcissist and experiencing emotional abuse. 

2. Creating Isolation

The second way HPV is a narcissist is that women feel completely isolated when dealing with HPV. They feel like they can’t talk to their loved ones and family. They’re afraid of what other people will think, and so they tend to keep it to themselves. Many women with HPV and cervical cancer suffer in silence.

The reason this happens is because HPV causes women to feel afraid – in constant fear, anxiety, and worry. You worry for many reasons: worry about cancer, worry about what others are going to think if you tell them, fear of what’s going to happen next with medical procedures. Women sometimes even become afraid to go to the doctor’s office and have another pap smear because the medical procedures become traumatic as well.

Women become afraid of what this may do to their ability to have a family and a healthy pregnancy. They fear whether they can be dating or how this might impact their dating life, and that they might give the virus to their partner. They feel afraid to tell their partner or spouse. 

These fears lead women to be less and less likely to talk to anyone about what they are feeling, out of fear of what they will say, and so they become more and more isolated. 

Women describe feeling embarrassed, ashamed, and as though it is their fault that they are testing positive. The self-criticism further isolates them from others, including loved ones. 

I encourage you, if you feel comfortable, to comment down below if this sounds like you—if just knowing that you’re testing positive for HPV has created a flood of fears and anxieties, and it ends up feeling like no matter which way you turn, you’re worried about what this virus is going to do to your life, and you feel alone.

Please know that you are not alone – I am here, I understand, and I can help.

3. Taking Control When You’re Vulnerable

The third way HPV acts like a narcissist is that it comes in and takes over when we’re vulnerable.

Women tell me that it feels like the virus is ruining their life and future, and it has that potential. 

I also talk to women who have been testing positive for HPV, needing to have procedures, in some cases a surgery to remove the cervix or uterus, and then causing abnormal cells vaginally, and having that happen over and over again. Literally, the virus has taken control of their body, health, and future.

This is exactly what happens with a narcissist. They want to take over the full agenda of your life – your direction, what you’re doing each day, and where you’re going with your life. 

That’s what a narcissist will do: they will take over and cause you to go in the direction they want you to go. And that’s what happens with the HPV virus – it causes everything to go the direction the virus wants to go, and the virus wants to go toward abnormal cells and cancer.

Narcissists can identify when a person is vulnerable. Usually, it’s a person who’s more caring, sympathetic, empathetic, willing to forgive, and willing to make changes to themselves. 

That means a narcissist can come in and criticize, and the victim feels like, “Oh, it’s my fault. I need to do something differently. I need to be more compassionate toward this other person.” So the narcissist is able to take control when you’re most vulnerable—when you’re vulnerable because you’re being kind, you’re not distrusting them, and you’re forgiving.

Being compassionate, trusting, open, and loving—those are beautiful traits. But for a narcissist, it can make you vulnerable.

When the Body Is Vulnerable to HPV

HPV virus takes control when you’re vulnerable. This means – and we see this in the research as well – that when women are stressed, for example, because of being in a narcissistic relationship and being abused, they become more susceptible to HPV. 

There are several reasons why stress leads to increases susceptibility to HPV. 

• When we’re more stressed, our cortisol levels become too high or too low. When cortisol is too high or too low, it affects the immune system, making it less able to fend of infections in general, including HPV.
  
• Nutrient deficiencies also become more common, due to lack of nutrition and lack of absorption. Blood tests from standard medical visits don’t test for these nutrient deficiencies, so often women don’t know they have a nutrient deficiency. 
  
  That means you need to know which blood tests to request to determine if you have, for example, an iron deficiency, B vitamin deficiency, or vitamin D deficiency. Those are three of the most common nutrient deficiencies that I find associated with HPV.
  
• Stress causes hormone imbalances as well. When your hormones are out of balance—let’s say estrogen is too high, or with perimenopause when estrogen is too low – it affects our ability to protect ourselves from HPV.
  
• Our microbiome is also disrupted by stress. That is true for both our microbiome in the gut and in the vagina. The microbiome is the healthy bacteria that communicate with our immune system to protect us from HPV. 
  
  When we’re under stress, exposed to toxins (including toxic relationships but also toxins in the environment), and when we’re exposed to certain medications like antibiotics that disrupt our microbiome, that affects our vaginal microbiome, and it’s not able to protect us from HPV.

And these are just a part of it. There can also be imbalanced blood sugar levels, imbalanced thyroid hormone, as well as toxin exposure. All of these things cause us to be vulnerable to all viruses and infections, including high-risk HPV.

The thing is, testing positive for HPV is NOT just about exposure. Most all of us are going to be exposed to HPV. Over 80% of us, research shows, by age 50—and even if you have one partner, you’re being exposed to high-risk HPV. So it’s not just about exposure. We’re being exposed at some point, and it could even be exposure from the past.

But when we’re depleted and vulnerable, when we’re burned out and worn out—maybe we had a death in the family, maybe we’ve been going through menopause, maybe we’ve been going through another health issue or injury, a motor vehicle accident, or some other crisis in our life—we get depleted. 

At that point the HPV virus, which we could have been exposed to in the past but our body could protect us from then, can test positive because it’s looking for that time when it can swoop in and take over. That’s exactly how it works or acts like a narcissist.

Breaking Free from the Narcissist Virus

I’m sharing this information because I believe that it can help you to protect yourself. Otherwise, you’re likely to be in the mindset of the virus. Literally, the virus may take over and create a sense of worry, putting you onto its agenda toward cancer.

It’s only when you can get enough information to realize, “Wait a minute, how come this virus is getting to make these decisions and take over my body? This is my body. I get to choose.” 

As soon as I see women see that bigger picture, when they can pull back the veil created by the virus and all of the fear, they can stand back and see, “Oh my gosh, this is not the only option. This is not the only reality.”

Just because the medical system and your medical doctor aren’t telling you that there’s another option doesn’t mean there’s not another option. 

I have friends who are gynecologists and medical doctors of different specialties, and they share with me that they are not taught how to use food as medicine, how to use nutrients, clinical nutrition, or herbs. They are not taught that it’s possible to support your immune system and clear HPV.

Right now, at least at this moment in time, there is no medication that works on the HPV virus. Yes, there are medications that work on the herpes virus – that’s a different virus – and there are different medications that work on other viruses, but right now there’s not a pharmaceutical medication that works on the HPV virus. 

That’s why they don’t have a treatment. The doctor will say there’s nothing else they can do except come back and see if there are abnormal cells, and then they can do a procedure or surgery to remove abnormal cells. They don’t have a way to remove the virus.

However, that doesn’t mean there’s not a way. Sometimes you have to understand the big picture to see how this HPV virus is functioning – it’s functioning like a narcissist – and to understand the medical system, their training, and their lack of training in ways to help you with the HPV virus.

Helping Your Body Fight Back Against the Virus

It just so happens that my training as a naturopathic doctor allows me to see the body as connected parts and to see that the body has an innate healing capacity. I’m also a scientist and researcher, so I’m able to go into the research, understand it, and connect the dots to see that there are approaches that help the human body clear HPV—not just temporarily, but literally help your immune system do what it is able to do, which is to clear viruses.

To clear a virus means to get it gone—to zero, no present virus—and now your immune system has learned how to protect you from the virus going forward. So once your immune system learns how to protect you from HPV, it can remember that going forward. But to do that, we need to address the reasons why you’re vulnerable to the virus.

Yes, you could take a few things – I often hear people say, “I’m going to take a mushroom extract, I’m going to take a Chinese herb, I’m going to do a couple of things” – and the virus might go away, but it might be temporary because if it’s not fully addressing the underlying causes of what’s making you vulnerable, the virus can come back.

My goal is to help you fully, comprehensively address the reasons why HPV is able to swoop in like a narcissist and take advantage of the situation. We need to be comprehensive. We need to go through the eight susceptibilities that I’ve identified for HPV, and I can walk you through this.

Taking Back Control of Your Health

We are going to need to think outside the box of the standard medical approach. We are going to need to think about your diet, your self-care routine on a daily basis, what you’ve been exposed to in terms of emotional toxicity and narcissism, and how to help you recover from it. We’re going to need to think about your exposure to toxins in the environment, other medications, your hormones, your nutrients, and your gut and vaginal health. 

As we heal all of those aspects of your health, then HPV can no longer exist because we’ve now completely resolved the susceptibilities and vulnerabilities. HPV virus can only exist when we’re vulnerable, when we’re worn down and depleted.

This is your opportunity. I invite you to take this opportunity to pivot in your life, to take your life back into your own hands, to say, “I’m not willing for a virus to run the show here and determine what’s going to happen to me, and for me to be living in a state of constant fear and anxiety. I’m not willing.”

I know it can be so hard when you’ve been exposed to narcissistic abuse. As I mentioned, I’ve been there. I understand how hard it is, and you don’t have to be out of the narcissistic relationship. I want to emphasize that. 

I’ve worked with many women still in a narcissistic relationship and still been able to help them recover from narcissistic abuse and from the HPV virus. Don’t let that stop you. You can start today to heal yourself from narcissistic abuse as well as from a narcissistic virus like HPV. I will be here to support you. You are no longer alone. 

You don’t have to tell everyone else in your life if you don’t want to. That’s not required. But it will help you to know that you’re not alone and that you can start any day on the healing path. You can protect yourself. I say that with such confidence because I’ve worked with thousands of women from around the world of all different ages, all different scenarios—sometimes women who’ve been dealing with HPV for over 30 years—and I’ve been able to help them clear the virus. That’s what gives me the confidence to say that it can happen for you too.

If you want to hear more from other women who’ve worked with me, just go to clearhpvnow.com. On the testimonials page, you will see videos, hear audios, and read stories of women who walked this path and made the courageous choice to take their health back into their own hands, to say, “Okay, my past does not have to determine my future. Just because that happened to me, just because I was in that relationship, doesn’t have to mean that I’m stuck with this virus and the potential risk and fear associated with it.”

It’s possible to let go of your past and redefine yourself and your future starting today. That’s what happens when I work with women one-on-one, it’s a process of helping them learn about their bodies. Most often, you already had a sense of these things because you have a really good intuition. There’s something going on inside—something doesn’t feel right, something doesn’t feel good, something needs to be addressed—and likely you’ve been taking care of everyone else and have not had a chance to take care of you.

I look at it as once HPV shows up positive, that’s your sign that this is the time to take care of you. If HPV is giving us any message, it’s that it’s time to pay attention to you. You’ve helped a lot of others, you’ve taken care of a lot of other people, and now it’s your turn to learn how to take care of you.

We can start little by little. We don’t have to rush this. It can be step by step. You start to realize, “Okay, how can I feed myself better, get better sleep, do activities during each day that help me recover, make sure that I’m getting the nutrients I need, the hormone balancing I need, the microbiome support I need so that my immune system can protect me from high-risk HPV virus?”

You don’t have to go down the path of cancer caused by high-risk HPV. And if some of you listening have had cancer, we can also prevent it from happening again, because I know that’s also something that doesn’t happen in the standard medical system—they’re not preventing it from happening again.

That’s why I feel so passionate about saying, “Listen, I can see the way this virus works, and I can see that it’s possible to recover from narcissistic abuse. It’s also possible to recover from a narcissistic virus like high-risk HPV.”

Now that you know, you can decide if this is something in your life that you want to address. I encourage you to journal about that. Take a couple of deep breaths, put your hand on your heart. 

I know that even through everything you’ve been exposed to and everything you’ve been through, there’s a part inside of you who knows that you deserve help with high-risk HPV. You deserve help to address your vulnerabilities, to help you recover from what you’ve been through so that what you’ve been through doesn’t have to determine what you will go through in the future. 

You can then connect with your true self and your true purpose here in your human life—to do what you’re really meant to do and not just be caught up in the virus and this whole process associated with high-risk HPV.

Please don’t hesitate to reach out to me or my office. We’re happy to speak with you about your case and help you understand what’s possible and what services we offer to help you with that.

Please understand that the services I offer are outside of the standard medical system and insurance because this approach doesn’t exist there. At the same time, it is not that you are choosing one or the other. We need the services provided in the standard medical system – we need access to do a pap smear and HPV test, or if you need a procedure, you’re going to need a practitioner who can perform it. 

It’s about you saying, “I need to take care of me now.” Part of that will get covered by insurance, part of it isn’t going to get covered by insurance, but still, we need to find a way to get you access to that care so that you can get the information you need to protect yourself from HPV, prevent cancer, and move forward in your life in a healthier way.

How You Can Start Healing Today

I have a lot of ways to help. You can begin your journey in several ways. 

I offer free online workshops periodically, typically running for five days, where you can learn more about my approach and start developing your plan. If you don’t want to wait for a live workshop, you can watch my HPV Masterclass immediately – it’s about an hour long and available right away. 

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From there, you might choose to join the Heal HPV Kickstart Program, for the initial steps of my protocol, including diet changes and supplements, over the first 30 days. Find the HPV Supplement Bundle here.

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Or you can begin with the comprehensive Say Goodbye to HPV Program, which is 3 months and supports you to implement my full protocol.

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For those needing one-on-one support, I offer consultations via Zoom or phone from anywhere in the world. I’ve worked with patients from Australia, Hong Kong, India, Europe, Bermuda, Canada, and throughout the United States. My team can help coordinate supplement shipping worldwide, and we can work within your budget to find the right starting point.

Don’t let circumstances prevent you from getting the help you need. Whether you’re newly diagnosed or have been dealing with HPV for years, make yourself a priority. Write out or type up a clear plan of action – having a defined plan makes you more likely to achieve your goals. 

Imagine going to your next exam and receiving negative results. Don’t procrastinate or delay treatment; bring yourself to the top of your to-do list and commit to addressing this issue. Take action today, and let us help guide you toward optimal health and staying HPV negative.

Remember, you can schedule a time to talk with my team or with me about your specific case. We’ll help determine the best starting point for you.

If you’d like to learn more about my protocol to help you heal HPV naturally, visit clearhpvnow.com. There, you’ll find lots of resources and stories from women I’ve worked with and helped clear HPV for good. It worked for them, and it can work for you too.

It is important to know that it is possible to recover from stress and trauma and truly heal, because you’re not likely to hear that from your standard doctor’s office. Keep in mind, they are not educated about diet, exercise, supplements, or stress recovery. 

I am living proof that it is possible to heal holistically and naturally. It’s possible to balance your hormones or to use hormone replacement safely and effectively, as well as to clear HPV and get a normal pap result, and to eliminate the effects of stress, trauma, anxiety and depression. If you want to learn more about my approach to recover from stress and trauma I encourage you to read my book “Master Your Stress Reset Your Health.”

I welcome you to reach to learn more about becoming a patient or joining one of my group programs. My team is happy to talk it through with you and see what meets your needs best. 

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